The way you deal with sexual energy, will show your spiritual evolution.
Sexual energy is a fantastic source of vitality, relaxation and enjoyment. The full body (and ethereal bodies) is rejuvenated through it. However, that is not the experience of many.
For many, it is an itch which is meant to go away through an orgasm. This type of perception will deplete the vitality of a human being.
Through that realization, Tantra as a “technique” was taught to people. It was about avoiding ejaculation/orgasms for the sake of extending it. It was about being conscious of breathing and different techniques, methods to delay orgasms.
I recall reading some techniques from some “spiritual” people:
“Don’t ejaculate no matter what.” That is a “black or white” vision.
The joy of forgetting yourself cannot be there, for it becomes another source of pressure, another “objective” to accomplish in one of the few moments when the “I” could go away.
Tantra happens when a person has reached a certain degree of spiritual evolution. As long as the mind and emotional traumas are standing in the psyche of an individual, their nadis and chakras will not work properly. As a consequence, that will bring a variety of sexual experiences: From frustration to addiction.
Sexuality is a consequence of the evolution of a person. Sexual energy will bring nourishment when properly channeled.
As you ARE so is what you DO. Thus, the ACTION by itself whether it is to have sex or to repair a car is colored by who you ARE. What you ARE, is basically the addition of all mental constraints, emotional traumas, taboos, hang ups, beliefs which are not allowing someone to be open to the experience of enjoyment.
All of those “constraints” are shaping up the “I.”
That is why, as the “I” goes away, so the obstructions in our nadis and chakras, which will be open to experience what we ARE… bliss, fulfillment, creativity, vitality.
In Sexuality like in any other type of experience, there is a range. In every lifetime, we will experience certain degrees of that range, from none to full. That is why, wherever you ARE, that is OK. It is part of your evolution. As there is openness, then we could move to a different position in the range of experiences.
If we understand the above, there is no way that we could label sex and sexual energy as “bad or good.” However, those who feel comfortable labeling sexuality as good or bad, are exactly where they need to be.
That is the wonder of Life. See the differences, embrace the differences, make those differences one with you…so there are no longer differences.
Then you are ONE with what is. That is integration with Life.