One of the first “juicy” issues to find out about ourselves, is our immediate disposition to become angry.
To show anger is so common that it has been named as a “normal” thing to experience. It is so “normal” that to relate with another human being without anger is considered a sign of weakness, of being meek, of not having the force to oppose others, etc.
Anger is just a mental disease, the turbulence of the mind. When tolerance and inner strength are lacking, then anger arises. Thus, anger is weakness in itself.
It is the little pussy cat pretending to be a big tiger. 🙂
Anger could arise as a mechanism to protect our “weak” ego. There are some individuals who use anger to support their position in life, to manipulate people around them; that is to control people and situations.
The emotion behind anger is: “things are not going my way, I must force them to go my way at all costs.”
Any form of anger has that motto.
In a competitive society, anger is used as a “boost” mechanism. If I get angry I will fight with greater courage, with greater force, with greater strength, etc.
However, what is not observed is that anger “hits” our own body/emotions by way of diseases: Heart problems, high blood pressure, digestion issues, strokes, depression, anxiety, etc.
Anger is energy. That energy could be directed to someone or something, but at the same time; that energy remains in the person producing it, which has ill effects for his own well-being.
Emotional anger could be felt when a person raises his voice, when a person becomes ironic, when a person develops thoughts against someone or a situation, when a person uses harsh words to express himself, when a person has violent movements or lacking gracefulness… different ways of manifesting anger; some are very visible, others are more subtle.
This problem with anger, gave birth to the duality of expressing “healthy anger” and avoiding “unhealthy anger.” That is how “anger management” took birth.
In this duality of “good or bad,” we oversee the problem; as long as our minds are not balanced, harmonious; there will be anger and with that the problem of defining levels of anger as “good” or “bad.”
This harmony of the mind is not resolved by taking a pill or by going to classes on anger management or by taking up meditation or by “doing” something to “get anger out of our systems,” when there is a cultural understanding that “we need anger so we can deal with people.” We need to get rid of that complex first.
Anger merely demonstrates how dysfunctional our society has become.
When kids are angry, they fight to find who “is the boss.” The issue does not matter but it is all about physical force. When adults have anger is about screaming and putting up an emotional performance to take the audience in deep silence…and fear… It is the master and slave complex.
🙂 The one who screams the most wins…at least at the moment.
Anger is a very immature way of dealing with life. It is the rage of someone who didn’t get his piece of chocolate cake, and wants for no one to enjoy their piece to “get even.” That is the cowardice of the pussy cat performing the roaring voice of a tiger.
As we observe, as we become aware of our own minds; we will recognize the rage of someone who does not know the meaning of tolerance, compromise and calmness without taking a pill to numb his mind, to dull his feelings.
This realization, will bring change without side effects. This is the task of a healthy mind.