In most spiritual teachings, a method is given. Something to follow, something to “do.”
The thought is: You are this degraded being now, but you can become “better.”
Please see that this is a very convincing “reason.” All that is necessary for the teaching to “prove” is how degraded we are in our present condition. Then, automatically the “egotistical” becoming “better” arises.
By” becoming better” we think; we deserve God’s light, we deserve paradise, etc.
It sounds fantastic! 🙂
The language of “becoming better” is the politically correct way to write about spiritual stuff. Anyone could follow this without misunderstanding. If you have not “become better,” then there is something “wrong” with you. The problem is not the teaching but you following it.
In the simplicity of this language lies the problem of theory versus practice.
For someone who has “worked on” changing the self, it is certain that any type of change imposed from the outside will bring an emotional reaction. Then of course, “methods” are created to deal with this “reaction.” More methods to “blame on you” about not being able to follow them correctly, if you have not succeeded.
It is interesting to note how most spiritual seekers are always looking for “methods,” as if spirituality was mathematics.
Love to God is a method. A sense of responsibility to change the world, is another method. The, “if you don’t change then, punishment will be experienced” is another method, etc.
Nevertheless, our emotions will not be acknowledged for typically our emotions are OK with things as they are. Change is not desired. Then, there will be upheaval for sure.
We will say things, which we believe to be “correct,” but then; we will do and feel the opposite. That sort of fragmentation will create a confused person. Then, frustration will come in because of noticing that our expected change hasn’t occurred or it was a temporary fix only.
When we understand our emotions, we will see that we are already fragmented into a person, which we call “me,” then another being which we could call “ego,” and then; the “inner child.”
Most everyone has that fragmentation already, maybe with different labels.
Then of course, more methods will be invented to deal with this, temporarily. A cycle of methods to fix other methods will be created. 🙂
As far as my experience is concerned, a permanent change occurs when there is an experience, which will take away a previous one.
Basically “a nail drives out another nail.”
Love to God will only work if there is indeed that love. It will not work if we are “working on loving God,” it will not work if we are still figuring out how to love God; so honesty is important.
Similarly, by having the experience of the inner self, by just having that experience; there is change and inner understanding of all previously fragmented sides of our personality. That experience becomes the nail to take out previous nails.
Then, emotions will change permanently because there is no rejection, but it is just the experience of something else which is fulfilling and “better.”
That is why “becoming better” is an illusion, a theoretical illusion when we are lacking the experience of the inner self.
To force ourselves to change, means to force the “ego” to disappear or to force the “inner child” to be something else.
Those instructions coming from our intellect, our own minds; are certainly illusions but accepted illusions nevertheless.
However, as paradoxical as “truth” can be, to experience that frustration in changing to a “better self,” is an invaluable experience to move on into a different perspective of life.
Change happens automatically in the experience of the self and that is why, spirituality from my perspective; is a way to find what we are; without further labels to that experience.
There is a knowing without explanations.
Then our emotions will heal. Using force to change the self cannot work in the long run.
Force has never conquered anything.