Believing in Awakening

Living in society will bring us some sort of perceived security. A sense of purpose through having a laid out path to complete. We believe that our laws, moral values and “virtuous” living are compatible with higher order.
We believe in working hard to achieve whatever our minds tell us. That is whatever we believe. We live in the world of beliefs. Just achieve. Compete with others if they are in your way. Show them who the best is!
Look out for you and then for the extension of you, your family. “Help” others when yours are OK and have plenty, enough to “give” what is not needed.
Most of all, remain busy. Do things for an objective, a goal. Go to school, then college, get married, have kids, get a house, a car, a couple of pets. Get busy! Save for retirement, then you can ‘relax.’ Most of all… “Be happy!!”

We only understand “get happiness.” Something out there will give me that. I have to keep trying.

In a nutshell, that is the brainwash. The castle built out of “pretty” words. The belief that happiness is to comply with the conditioning.

Likewise, our “spirituality” will be based on that brainwash. There is the goal to achieve: Heaven, god, eternal salvation… Plenty of objectives.
There is the “family” of the “chosen ones.” You are part of it, if you just believe. There is plenty of help to give to others to “save them.” That “good action” will get you brownie points with the “Father,” the creator: God. Then you can ‘relax’ for eternity. Here in society, you work hard to get something for yourself. Over there, for the “spiritual” world, you do the same. We cannot ‘relax’ until we work hard first, right?  
Isn’t it that “as it is above, it is below”? That phrase is used out of context. As we wake up, we will realize.

Awakening cannot be for everyone. There are many who rather live in the land of “make believe.”
Awakening is not an easy process. It is not a walk in the park.
It hurts, it disappoints, it hits you against the wall until “you” die. Once you are dead, then you are alive. Logical isn’t it? But it is no longer “you.”
When we are used to eating only chocolate in Life and we feel safe, how are we going to try another flavor? Only when Life offers us vanilla and not chocolate. That is a change of consciousness. Chocolate goes away and our fear to starve gets in the way. Our attachment to the known will not allow us to try something different. When we taste vanilla, we “know.” We become satisfied to taste another flavor and can appreciate chocolate from another perspective, another consciousness.
Awakening is like that. However for most, awakening is only about “understanding” the flavor of vanilla and reading plenty about it, getting certified in vanilla, but never had the opportunity to taste.
When we are ready to leave chocolate, vanilla will come and then chocolate will be gone, and we will “know” that there are many flavors in Life, many ways of looking at Life, many ways of living Life. Otherwise, we believe that Life is only chocolate!

Consciousness is not depending on us and our efforts to “achieve,” as society has conditioned us. So ‘relax.’ Consciousness is our link with Life itself. It happens. Just like Life itself. It happens. All we have to “do” is become AWARE of it.

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The conditioning behind the word “Spirituality.”

Are you working on achieving peace of mind? Do you want to get rid of your vices to achieve something like heaven?
The above is only a continuation of the views of our “modern” society. Most individuals are framed in that. Through that tunnel, they can only see achievements, self-imposed changes to fit some ideal. Our society works that way, but Life does not.
Peace of mind is only a concept. For those who “know,” peace is in no-mind. That is not an achievement. That experience cannot be defined. Life does not fit our language, but our language fits the general perceptions of the collective consciousness.

Do you like to swim? Then swim. Enjoy that activity. But for our society that is not enough. Just to swim is “boring.” We need to improve ourselves. Get faster. Prove that we are capable of beating the “competition.” Then, we get a medal. Recognition as an appreciation for being a loyal supporter of the brainwashing. It is hard to say ‘No’ to that mindset, for financial gain is involved and for many, money is Life. That is their “spirituality.” However, this is not a matter of saying “yes” or “no” to that conditioning, or fighting against the “injustice” and the “control.”  No! It is a matter of being AWARE of the conditioning so it will never affect us whether we go with it or not. For we get affected, traumatized if we don’t “succeed,” if Life does not bring us closer to the ideal of what “should be,” of what the movie or the TV sells as “happiness,” or the “happy family.”

Want to go to heaven? Every religion selling that concept has a path. No one could ever check the validity of it, but it is good to give it a try so others can see “my improvement.” At least, “I” should leave a favorable impression, for “I” can’t ever BE the ideal. The ideal is unreachable but that becomes the “challenge,” a source of entertainment to pass our time.
The rat race of achieving objectives, labels or degrees has perceived benefits in our society; but that doesn’t mean that “spirituality” is based on the same premises. In Life, you are not a “master” if you have certifications, degrees or if you have studied many years with another “master.” You may have lots of information but consciousness … may not be there. Without that, we ARE NOT.

What is to be spiritual?
To live Life in harmony. It has nothing to do with a belief in higher or lower beings or a belief in Science to help the World. It has nothing to do with “practicing” predetermined actions and call those “good.”
Harmony has no definitions. We cannot “achieve” harmony for there is no method or practice to get to that. Harmony is like moving with the tune that Life is playing. That tune is only for those who can hear it. But there are other tunes playing at the same time. A tune doesn’t last our whole Life. That tune will change right when the next song arrives. If we are AWARE, we will change our dancing moves, our tempo, our cadence, our rhythm at the right time. No one could ever put in words “how to move,” buy yet many religions, spiritual movements, philosophies, etc. pretend to know the “steps” to take, as if they could predict the next song.

Nothing “spiritual” could ever be learned in books, classes or retreats. However, those have value as entertainment, to socialize, to accumulate information, concepts and ideas, to make us believe that we are “better” because we “understand” a concept. Entertainment is “good.”
With all of those conditionings in our minds, we cannot know what is no-mind. Without no-mind there is no empty space for peace. Without the experience of peace, there cannot be harmony.
So where do we start? Unlearning what we have learned.
So when do we start? When we are feed up with “Life.” That is… society.

Every Life is a unique experience

As obvious as this sounds, we continually neglect that. We have ideas of what should be, what is right, what is better for others. Comparisons are incessant and with that a sensation that will not allow us to feel fulfillment in Life.
Most everyone wants to be “someone” in Life: Well known, powerful, influential. However, that is not Life. That is society. In Life, we already ARE. In society, we continually need to BECOME someone else, we call that with a pretty label: “better” we say.

Am I saying to be a “nobody,” not to have goals in “Life”?
No. Every Life is a unique experience. Riches may be combined with ill health. Power with impotence. Influence combined with a lousy relationship, it is a bag of mixed goodies!

How can there be happiness then?
It just depends on what we focus on. Some “spiritual” people like to call this as “positive thinking.” But that could be a bunch of “positive self-inflicted lies.”
What I focus on, is not thinking. It is that which I enjoy, that which I take great pleasure, that which makes my day, and of course; that will change, thus there is no space for the “same old thing.”
It is in this focus how appreciation of that which I am able to do NOW, that which I have NOW becomes my source of fulfillment. When it is time for that to change, I will be able to shift to newness, for in appreciation of now, there is space for a new tomorrow. It may not be as I thought of, or as I wished this newness should be or as I expected it; but it is certain that this new change will bring newness and with that a new source of fulfillment as long as my focus is on the art of appreciation.

In our society, we are taught to think too much, thus there is no space for unrehearsed appreciation. We don’t have to have all the answers before making a move, we just need to feel if that change is where Life will take me and trust it.

Trust is not a matter of having faith in some power above us. It is a matter of acceptance of Life as it comes to us.
Acceptance is one of the hardest things to BE, when we are told to fight for everything in Life. When we ARE in that consciousness of fighting, we are taught to “practice” acceptance when there is no way out.
What a joke.

Understanding male sexuality #4 – Conditionings

“Normal” consciousness can only perceive the physical aspect of sex.

“Normal” people will express sexuality mostly based on their lower energetic levels (Chakras.) That expression is raw, only concerned with the satisfaction of the sexual organs by getting rid of the “itch” of their own life force. That force lacks regulation to permit closeness and blissful enjoyment. It reaches a quick peak and explodes. Pornography is a good example: Protagonists are limited to the sexual organs. That “making love” is mixed with profanity, hitting the partner and even inflicting pain. That is fashionable, “normal” nowadays. There is nothing to condemn or to preach about. It only shows our collective consciousness, who we ARE. An “orgasm” becomes a power play. Unconscious shame and guilt of feeling pleasure, is masked in that act.

When the energetic expression is based on the heart (upper chakras,) sexuality has a different meaning. It is a slow dance. There is no goal just like in dancing. It is the dance of 2 beings becoming one.

“Teachers” will teach “methods” to slow down. They will give Do’s and Don’ts. The outcome is dishonest individuals, copycats who are hiding who they really ARE. If you are a “normal” individual you cannot pretend to be a heart focused person. Your energy is not there, no matter how many “methods” or “techniques” someone may follow.

If you are a “normal” person looking to experience something “great,” “better” or different, you are not acknowledging who you ARE.
When we know who we ARE, we can change. It is natural to change. Our society will teach us to DO things to make a fake change without spending time in our self-understanding.

For our society to have degrees and certifications in sexuality and spirituality is important to “know” and to “teach” others. If your higher chakras are not open, of what good your information, your knowledge is? You ARE NOT who you pretend to BE. That information will not help you to BE there. Only to DO things to look like you are there.
Do you want to be a great lover? Do you want the “secrets,” the “techniques”? No need to register for a class. Here it is:
Learn to love yourself. Start with your own body. That is very difficult when we have taboos and conditionings, so; the task is to learn about ourselves to decipher our own maze. That is where sexuality and spirituality begin in a holy marriage.

When we love ourselves, we can love another. Without loving ourselves first, there is no chance to share love with another. It will be fake. Sooner or later our true needy, traumatized self will come out.

Thus, human sexuality is the manifestation of who we ARE.

Observe the duality within your body. Your penis and your anus are sources of great pleasure but at the same time, it is a “normal” source of a feeling of disgust, for urination and defecation are also part of their function. A conditioning that “straight males do not mess with their anus” is there. Could you accept your whole body? Not mentally or verbally, but it has to be a change in BEING.
Do you love your own body? Do you touch yourself with care as to experience the pleasurable sensations that your body is capable of? Do you feel ashamed or guilty? Those feelings cannot go away with a simple understanding that our body is “good.” We have to go deeper emotionally. That is the journey.

Sexuality and Spirituality are intimately related. When taboos are no longer there, when our little conditionings are dissolved, we are free, open. Sexuality will show us our hang ups, our lack of openness, our fears… BUT, we don’t start with talks and techniques to touch ourselves or our partners “better.” We start with acknowledging who we ARE NOW and by discovering our emotional barriers.

Human sexuality is truly a gift to enjoy in our corporeal experience. That capacity of enjoyment varies among human beings: For some is none to negative. For others is greater to outstanding. That is the range of experiences. But for very few, it is a communion with the Universe. That is the most sacred act. Worthy of being depicted in a holy temple.

Will be on vacation until July 5th.

 

Understanding male sexuality #3 – Energy

It came to my attention, that there was a sensationalist “news” that a woman “is having sex with ghosts and prefer them than humans.”

Those “news” have been existing for many centuries. “Ghosts” do not have physical sex organs but are able to give a woman a pleasurable time while men get caught up with the size of the penis as a sign of virility. 

Those ghosts are called Incubus and Succubus.
Some individuals want to “try” this. These individuals have no idea as to why this happens, but they want some of that, for they are curious or perhaps they have an unfulfilled sex Life. Unable to be fully intimate with a person, a “ghost” will serve conveniently as a pleasurable “sex toy,” although with a hefty price.

When a person suppresses and represses different emotional aspects, that is a sign, that this person does not love himself. Their aura field, displays energy which is attractive to these “ghosts.” Those “ghosts” are not there to get “orgasms” with humans. They are there to feed themselves with the energy of their prey and in the process, change many aspects of the human they are using, including taking away their vitality.
Those “ghosts” are like vultures, scavenging from the sorrowful, repressed energy of some humans. That is their nature, thus those ghosts are not “evil” just like a vulture is not “evil.” In exchange, those individuals will be experiencing high levels of sexual pleasure, but there are some inconvenients:
“Ghosts” come and go as they wish. Typically they will disturb the deep sleep of their victims, that is when the victim is most vulnerable. Typically, victims will be perplexed as everything seems like a dream. As the “ghost” is accepted, then times will vary but the “ghost” is in control.
There will be a high level of addiction. Many will even confuse that with “love.” They even call that a “relationship.” All misleading terminology missing the “big point”:
There is no self-love.
To illustrate, these “ghosts” have visited many religious temples filled with nuns and monks over centuries. Their “holy” repression was an instant attraction for these “ghosts.”
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be celibate all your life. Nothing wrong with believing that this will take you closer to God. However, if we are not honest and we repress, then there will be consequences.
Since the immense majority of these experiences have no evidence for others to confirm, a “holy” temple could also be the biggest brothel, in the name of God.

Our society has another infantile idea: “The more a man ejaculates, the better.” Women may even count the times her man ejaculates. “Let us compare the numbers. Run the stats.” The hidden side of it is a lost vitality. As the man attempts to “impress” a woman (although the woman may not experience sexual fulfillment,) his vitality goes away as well as his interest for that woman. What is the consequence? He will look for another woman, for newness will inspire him to get back to the former “stats,” until one day there is no more “juice” to continue on. Then, a pill from science may do the trick and in the process, take away more energy from an already depleted man.

Sexual energy is the glue for a relationship of love, when there is full emotional involvement. For most, sexual energy is just another form of entertainment, a new way of excitement, something to try when it itches, like watching a renown, expensive play. How many times could you afford to watch an expensive play? How many times per week? We will lose money although we may enjoy ourselves; but in our sexual life, we are losing our energy, our lives.
That is how silliness entered our minds and labeled sex as “bad and dirty.” Some looking for a culprit, wanted to avoid ejaculation at all costs and yet others, wanted to forbid sexual pleasure and replace it with shame and guilt. All of that is in our DNA, for it has been going on for centuries.

As many things in Life, balance is the key, but there cannot be balance when we are addicted, repressed or needy. It is in that realization how we start our journey in Tantra, by healing those traumas first, and not by learning “techniques, methods and secrets.” Those are for childish minds.

Shall continue…

Understanding of male sexuality- #2

What we ARE is the flavor that will be transmitted to others. What we DO does not bring flavor when our actions do not match who we ARE. 

For most, sexuality is about physical attraction or an opportunity. These individuals usually are not aware of energies. That is fine. For others sexuality is an expression and the physical goes along with emotional closeness, for there is energetical compatibility. That is fine too.

Let me illustrate: Most “normal” individuals will eat junk food in a heartbeat. These are not aware of the consequences that this will bring later on, but they enjoy the moment. Enjoyment is good! Junk food is many times, emotional  food. Others who are aware of natural food and the benefits of it, may not eat junk food. Junk food is naturally tasteless for them. They enjoy “healthy” food! Similarly, some may sleep with anyone in the name of “practicing” Tantra. Energetically junk food is OK for them. Others, may be more picky. All is good, according to our consciousness. But, if we crave junk food but repress it in the name of eating healthy, we may have created a problem for ourselves. Change from junk into healthy without repression, does not come solely through intellectual understanding. There has to be change of consciousness, otherwise; our repression will be hidden and growing.

Male ejaculation has become a “problem” nowadays, due to information shared by “masters.” We hear: Avoid ejaculation at all costs, that drains your energy. “Techniques” are sold for that, etc. If your BEING is not ready for that, it will be all about repression. Sex will not be enjoyable as a guilt trip is assured, if a “mistake” happens.  A “master” is not made out of “practice” alone. If there was only “practice” and “Technique” rest assured, that individual is not a “master.”

It is very important to know where we ARE at a particular point in time. To look at ourselves and observe if we are repressing or indulging to the point of draining ourselves. If we are in the middle, know that this “middle” will change in time. It is a game of balance. To gain that sense of balance, is very important in Life.
The mind likes to ask questions such as: How many times is it OK to ejaculate per month?
Please forget about that. Learn to feel. If you are aware of how you feel, you will know. “Listen to your body.” If we depleted our energy, there are visible consequences. Using “scientific help” will deplete more what we have left. Naturally, celibacy is helpful at that time to regenerate our energy.

We have made sexuality into a problem. Rather, look at ways to change, to become less rigid about ideas of what “should be.” As we learn to accept ourselves and love ourselves starting from our bodies and the appreciation of the different feelings/sensations that our bodies are capable of, we could be ready to experience our own meaning of human sexuality. It is our own path after all.

Some individuals have the capacity to enjoy sex tremendously. Others do not.  Once we realize that Life offers the whole range of experiences, then our labels of “good, bad, right , wrong” will be left aside. All it is needed from us at every moment, is to be completely honest with ourselves. This holds true with sexuality as with other aspects of Life.

We may need to remember that Life changes and so do we. It is natural. Only our minds will bind us to the way we were a few months ago. It is in that acceptance of change how a relationship could be built. Nevertheless, most are not ready for that. Most want certainty, security. These individuals demand that someone does not change throughout their lives… without a doubt, love cannot grow in that.
Love grows in uncertainty. That is the flavor of BEING.

Shall continue…

Understanding of male sexuality – #1

Even today, there is a complete misunderstanding of human sexuality.
There is very little conscious experience of male sexuality. This time, I will share in a series of articles.
What makes me an “expert”?
I had the “normal” consciousness at one time in my Life. Now, it is different. Out of that change of consciousness there are many other natural changes including a different perception, experience and understanding of sexuality. Throughout reading the many articles of this blog, many will realize what I am pointing out. It seems as if 2 different people were writing here, although; it was just “me.”

In our society there is a reaction towards male energy. That reaction has taken the collective consciousness to believe that female energy is what we need at this time. The typical misunderstanding has placed a woman as the centerpiece on some religions and even “Tantra” teachings today. Please be aware that female energy is genderless. A male could have a predominant female energy as well as a female, male energy. Misunderstanding upon misunderstanding based on “research” of “normal” typical individuals is not the basis of the belief that human sexuality is like that. There is more to it.

A woman cannot understand the experience of a male. Similarly the opposite. Between males (whether predominantly female or male energy,) there is an enormous range of experiences that are possible.

Nevertheless, a different type of sexuality beyond the “normal” kind based on the harmonious exchange of energy of 2 different poles (male/female) happens when human consciousness changes. When we ARE ready.
Without this inner change, we are left with “techniques” and “rituals,” this is the game of pretending to be something that we ARE not. Spirituality and Sexuality are based on consciousness. Conscious awareness of energy. However, most are stuck in the physical attributes.

Therefore, it only makes sense to acknowledge who we ARE at this time, to value who we ARE at this time, to love who we ARE at this time, for a natural change to occur, free of traumatic experiences.

Our society sells performance and to be “better” all the time, without realizing that they are sending the message that as we ARE, we ARE not enough. This game of a donkey striving to reach the invisible carrot does not allow us to enjoy that which IS, right NOW… before it changes naturally.

The above is the foundation for Tantra. Without it, we are just dealing with mind games, as “teachers” are merely taking advantage of human weaknesses by merely promoting to indulge in sex, to a sexually repressed and spiritually unfulfilled individual. That game could be dangerous.

Sexuality is energy. It is that type of energy the one capable of bringing different types of experiences to individuals. That energy flows naturally from the pelvic region to the forehead, however; most “normal” individuals are completely unaware of this for their subtle “pipes” (nadis) are not “clean” enough. When this energy flows, the state of elation and bliss could be maintained longer which translates to a fulfilled, revitalizing act. However, for most that upward path is “clogged up” as a pipe which does not allow for water to flow upwards. The consequence is the explosion of that pressure on the pelvic region. That is what is known as “normal” for most. The label used is “orgasm.”

I want to clean my “pipes.” How to DO it? What is the “technique”?
If you are asking those questions, there is no understanding of what I conveyed above.
Only sharing for the common good. 

We shall continue….