Want to be “good”?

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If the article shared yesterday made sense, we could see that to be caught up in the duality of “being good and being bad” is illusory.

Let me put it succinctly. There is nothing “bad” in life for every experience; every single one of those experiences have benefit for the “life walker.” The issue comes when the “I” has desires, projects and expectations to achieve in this lifetime and life does not go according to his “master” plan. That we call suffering; we call it “bad.” Nothing wrong with making projects or having desires, but to know that when the “I” separates itself from the sea of life, duality will be experienced.

Thus, if there is nothing “bad,” what do we call “good”?
That realization is the beginning of acceptance of life as it is without judgment, without opinions, without “mind-full-ness” and thought to analyze things and to dissect it as to invite duality again.

Therefore, there is no need to work on “being good.” All we need to “do” is to get the “baggage”(beliefs, hang ups, taboos, emotional issues) healed and for that we may need to observe the “self.”

Every child has a different personality, but there is no one who could be labeled as “bad.”
A selfish personality is not “bad.” It is acting according to his perception of life, which in turn will bring consequences, which will be felt by that “selfish” being.
That suffering being experienced is not “bad” but the teaching, which is known as “settling karma,” which came about because that person was living according to his nature and not according to an intellectual teaching on “how to be good” in life.

When we live according to our nature, every lesson in life brings a transformation in consciousness.
When we live life according to what a book or a commandment taught us, there is no change in consciousness but just change in activity.

A religion may teach: “You shall not get angry.” If the nature of an individual is to get angry; then the teaching will merely suppress the expression of anger. Although, from the outside it may look as if the person has changed, in reality he has not. Anger is still in him. His consciousness hasn’t changed because his nature is the same.
Life experiences will teach that individual through suffering. Every being goes through that path.

To be honest is to realize that game that we are playing with ourselves.

Is duality “bad”? No. it is just a perception coming from a particular consciousness which is not aware of how “life works.”
When the “I” separates itself from everything else, that “I” is unable to perceive the unity, the wholeness. It is in this consciousness when a personal God is needed with commandments and rules on how to be “pure” or “good” as to change the outside behavior when the inside remains the same.

A being of light projects non-duality without using that label. Non-duality is something to discover. It cannot be taught. It basically means acceptance of life by belonging to it without a particular label.

If “I” consider myself to be a Christian, I will act and think in duality for an automatic rejection of everything else which is not Christian, will follow. If “I” consider myself some other label, rejection will happen to that which is not the label. That is how we could understand how an “angel” belongs to the Totality and not to a particular belief system.

To understand this intellectually will not make a change in our consciousness, it needs to come naturally as if we have a “new life” of unlearning previous concepts. That means a new consciousness.

When the great Tao is forgotten,
goodness and piety appear.
When the body’s intelligence declines,
cleverness and knowledge step forth.
When there is no peace in the family,
filial piety begins.
When the country falls into chaos,
patriotism is born.

Tao Te Ching Ch 18

Trapped in “good and bad.”


A reader asked about why this thing which we call “bad” exists, if everything in life is beneficial?

Trapped in the perception of duality, our consciousness only knows about “good and bad” when morality appears to pretend to correct that which seems damaged.
When that consciousness resides in the belief of the individual separated from everything else, then a fight will begin with “others” but especially within the “self.” That is known as a fragmented personality.

“This is right, that is wrong. This is good, that is bad. God is good. The devil is bad. Life is good, death is bad”

if the above is not enough, let us add some other labels to keep dividing things: “ Democrats are good, liberals are bad. Christians are this and Hindus are that… etc.

One commercial mentioned: “ …And remember the most important item in this relationship is YOU.”

When many customers appear, there will be many YOU’s who will fight among each other for supremacy.

Any philosophy or religion, which supports the idea of the “I” without considering the “reality” of Inter-beingness, is just a beginner path.

That is how “I think therefore I am” came up. When we perceive that consciousness changes all by itself and thought is not something which happens willingly but something which is experienced as the consciousness of individuality becomes stronger by being more fragmented, then ego is born and then that same ego-conscious mind ironically, wants to solve the state of alienation, separation which brings loneliness, depression and such states of being.

It is that kind of mentality which looks for salvation, for a better life in the afterlife, and for a God that could hear all about his miseries of being a separated entity in the Universe.
As long as that consciousness perceives separation, it cannot bring unity with all to its awareness.

That same mentality will search for “scape goats” for something to blame out of ignorance. In the duality of pleasure and pain, our society has selected pleasure as “bad.”
“Pleasure is the culprit, the cause of not being ‘pure’.” Sex is bad. “Humans have organs to reproduce but that is a temptation from the devil…”

The issue is not sex nor pleasure but the consciousness of the individuals involved.

An individualistic, ego centered consciousness cannot find that the issue is its own separation from the Totality and rather than become one with it by feeling life and being honest with his intentions, that individual rather rationalize things, think about “pros and cons” to trigger duality, separation… that personality wants to dominate, to control everything to support beliefs about its own existence now and the afterlife.

When that ego centered consciousness wants to “become good” then rejection is born towards that which is considered “bad” then that rejected thing will appear strongly…then the fight, the inner battle will be there.
A belief to “stick with the battle” against our true sentiments is proof of our dishonesty in life.

Because there is no battle. Nothing to fight for when we become open to life. It is that “I” who does not allow for change to happen.

Openness to life, acceptance, spontaneity, appreciation, gratefulness and joy are the “keywords” to live by in a different consciousness. No beliefs or religions in this. It is experiential, fulfilling right now… and not in the afterlife.

Good, bad, right , wrong, etc. were just tools for the “little kid” to start his “growing up” process in awareness.
Some may stay there all their lives… however, everything in life is beneficial. :-)

The “law” of attraction in life


Life has many students coming from a diversity of consciousness.
To learn to “knock at the door” in life is what typically has been called the “law of attraction.”

Think about something that you want and it will appear. Many books have been written to share this wonderful “Secret,” only known by the selected ones and now being shared for mainstream.

If the door opens then we could tell the “Secret” to others :-) However; if the door does not open, that only means that destiny wasn’t meant to be in that particular door.
Keep knocking at different doors.

There is a “Secret” in attraction, which is experienced by all, nevertheless we may fail to realize.
When 2 magnets attract each other, they have to be from opposite polarity. There is a collision through that attraction.
Similarly, when we reject something in life we attract it, for the polarities are opposed. Isn’t that paradoxical?

Ananda couldn’t stand to be in the presence of smokers. When he moved into a new apartment complex, his main request was not to be around smokers. As months went by smokers started to appear, then 2 heavy smokers arrived nearby.

Ananda wanted to get out of that apartment complex but he couldn’t. His lease wasn’t over.

Mathias the wise tree, suggested to Ananda not to feel rejection towards those who smoke.

Ananda said: “ But the smoke gets into your clothes and it is unhealthy for you. “

Mathias replied: ” Even more harmful for your health, are the sentiments of rejection that you are emitting in that moment.”

Ananda changed his ways and accepted the smokers around him. Every time he was close to one of them, he thought that it was a “test” and that he had to “pass the test” by not feeling rejection and by having a friendly conversation with those smoking.

The “test” game is interesting. The game is to pretend to be “good” by tolerating. In that toleration, there is separation between the “I” and them, the source of my tolerance.
Mathias the wise tree, informed Ananda that he was still living in that place despite his wishes to move out, because of his rejection to smokers.

Obviously, Ananda had attracted that which he was rejecting.

One day, one of the smokers had a small conversation with Ananda, while smoking his cigarette.

Ananda did not think anything at all related with smoking in that conversation. He saw how the smoker got rid of his cigarette after a little while. Ananda did not feel or think about this episode to be a “test.”

3 days later, a new management took over the apartment complex and with that unforeseen change the opportunity for Ananda to move out appeared.
Ananda’s feeling of rejection finished and with that, the need for him to be in that place.

Have you seen a person having fear (rejection) towards roaches?
But… they are ugly despicable vermin, dirty, repulsive etc…. rationalizing our motives will not do anything to hide the rejection. It is not the “fact” of what they could represent but how we FEEL about that “fact.”
Usually that person rejecting roaches is the one who has most encounters with roaches.
What about the one who rejects a religious group or a philosophy or a group of people?
Their life will be full of that which is rejected.

That is the law of attraction in life.

Another example?
Ananda believed that garlic was “bad for the mind.” That belief became so extreme as to reject any food touched by garlic in the grocery store.

One day Ananda became very sick due to mold growing in the bathroom of his apartment. He was feeling tired and his lungs were not breathing to the full capacity.
Mathias the wise tree, recommended to Ananda to drink apple cyder vinegar in the mornings and to eat raw garlic before lunch and after eating lunch, for 3 days…

Mathias mentioned to Ananda: “Let your food be your medicine.”

But… garlic is “bad”… Any alternative? :-)

To be tormented for a long while by doctors’ tests, insurance companies and secondary effects of medicines.

Ananda changed his view about garlic and his belief as well. His awareness changed once he became well again.

Everything that happens in life has benefit. We choose to call those episodes as “good” or “bad” according to what we perceive as convenient, without realizing that there is a journey made up of life experiences that every individual needs to go through.

Wisdom comes through those experiences in life, which will be converted into insight from lifetime to lifetime. When we are AWARE we could observe and obtain a valuable teaching from those experiences in life.

If everything is beneficial in the journey of the “life walker,” how is it possible for something to be “bad”?

When we reject any aspect of life, we cannot flow with life. A belief becomes the protector to preserve a particular type of consciousness, but at the same time, that same belief does not allow for consciousness to flow, to change… for life is change.

The “cult” experience


Many “seekers” may have embraced a cult or a sect in their journey.

The word “cult” deals with a system of religious practices, veneration or devotion towards someone, characterized for being out of “mainstream” and because of that, it is relatively small in size. The word “cult” is not intended here as a pejorative label to a religious institution.

The keyword is “away from mainstream.” This is a very important feature.

A very superficial opinion about a “cult” will only deal with the “process of indoctrination.” The label used is: It is “bad.”

For a “seeker” who knows that every experience in life has benefit, that “mainstream” label is meaningless.
A “seeker” knows that his journey is to walk through the avenues that life offers, and to realize things by himself.

In fact, joining a cult may be another experience in his journey. Someone in “mainstream mentality” could say: “But they are dangerous. That experience can even kill you.” Death is a “mainstream” word to infuse fear from walking away from “mainstream.”

We cannot judge the ways that life has to teach someone who is “searching” for meaning in life. Death is not the end of the journey.

As mentioned before, the typical dualistic reaction of someone who is not aware of the teachings in life, is to “embrace something” and then to “reject it” later on.
The ones who embrace a cult will be oblivious of everything but how to “be” there, how to “advance” there. That experience becomes a “support” for an otherwise lonely path of self-discovery.

The ones rejecting that experience after being sometime in a group; will usually feel “cheated.” They will feel that their time was wasted and antagonism will grow against “them.” Being immersed into “mainstream” again, becomes their solution.

A honest “seeker” has to be willing to empty his mind with every experience that life brings. That is what an experience away from “mainstream” brings, the opportunity to empty previously learned concepts which were labeled as “the truth” in the past.

A “sheep” like individual, is not an adequate material to be a “Life walker,” a seeker.
A “cult” or “mainstream” (the office’s world) is continually hiring followers, to be part of the “livestock.”
Followers are always in demand!

The above is not a “teenager” reaction against every institution or business about the way society runs. No. This is merely a description of what a seeker may find in his path.

A honest seeker will not react against anyone or take positions for or against. However, a “seeker” has to be willing to change that “old” mind which is engaged in the security of knowing a belief or a dogma, that mind needs to be free like the one of a child. Life teaches something new at every moment.

Changing the mindset of an individual seems like a good way to move on, right? Any change based on rejection of the “old” to embrace the “new” does not affect our current consciousness of separation or individuality. It is that rejection, that separation which will bring issues in the individual’s life later on.

As consciousness changes, another avenue will be shown in life. Again the mind, wants to “stick” with the comfort zone of what is known to be “good,” even though deep inside; there is a force pulling someone to change.

The struggle will be between that which is felt as “true” and the “rationality” of the mind.

That suffering, is another opportunity which life brings to create that change of consciousness in the “seeker.” Guts and trust in life are required. To look into the “pros and cons” of the occasion is not part of a honest seeker profile.

The path is already made but someone has to do the walk. The “inner feeling” may need to be heard. That happens when the mind is empty.

Any experience, which allows our mind to be empty from preconceptions, beliefs and judgments, is definitely a step forward in our journey.

Until next week… Will be in a “parasailing” experience…becoming one with the Ocean and the Sky. :-)

The inherent issue of “I am a soul.”


Sharings now, may not be easily digestible. They may not be for “general audiences” anymore.
That is the small print.

Every time the words “I am a soul” are mentioned, there is an inherent separation, a rupture which will be experienced by those located in the consciousness of individuality.

When we add in that consciousness words such as: “I am a soul and not a body,” then automatic negation of the body will appear. For some it could even go to the extreme of denial of everything the body represents.

In the path of the “Life walker,” the first thing we may want to be conscious of, is to be honest with ourselves. That is, to stop lying and denying our “true” perceptions.

Some may “know” that they are “souls” but when the body feels ill, they may realize that the theory behind “I am not the body” may need to be checked. If “I am not the shoe” and the shoe is bothering you , just take the shoe off and continue walking barefooted in joy.

That is not the case with the body.

This mentality of dissecting things, to find out who “we are” is clouded by our language, by thinking and intellectual understanding.
The word “soul” is a concept open to interpretation. To live life pretending that “I am experiencing that interpreted concept” is a self-infused lie.

There is an essence that feels in every human being, we could call it “soul” but that essence is void of personality and individuality.

It is the identification with the body what brings individuality along with the consciousness going at a particular point in time, which creates a personality.

The “soul,” the essence; is like a camera. The camera is meant to take pictures. To take pictures is the nature of the camera. To say “I am a camera” without considering the pictures is of no consequence.

In that analogy, the pictures are what the camera is able to do through its sense organs (body) however, there is a need of a “perceiver.” That “perceiver” is brought about by consciousness.

When someone is “unconscious” the “soul” is there but there is no feeling. Lights out.

That is why consciousness is what every sentient being has in common. Without consciousness the “soul” is nothing, but a dormant sleepy beauty… although eternal.

That is how we could explore consciousness without denying the perception of who “we are.”

Consciousness perceives. That perception may change in time. When a sense of individuality has been created, the mind and thoughts come into the picture to support that idea of “I am.” The ego when supporting that idea, contradicts the free flowing changes in consciousness.
Do we see that?

Therefore, wouldn’t make sense to study, to observe that which supports the idea of “self”? Our emotions, traumatic experiences, judgments and thoughts do not allow that universal consciousness to manifest as it should be according to time.

The kid “who decides” to stop playing with dolls in a natural way; could experience a psychosis if a dogma prescribes that “to play with dolls is good” and it must be done for as long as the kid lives for otherwise, there will be punishment.

That is the religious mentality of fear and punishment. Paradoxically, it is not bad; but necessary for the growth of many, to become aware.

Mathias the wise tree; suggested an easy exercise for conscious living to Ananda.
Here it goes:

“Sit down early in the morning with your palms in your lap facing upwards. Breathe in and out feeling your breath as your stomach inflates and deflates, synchronize your thoughts and feelings to be one along with your breathing.
That is consciousness without movement.

The next step is to put everything together while moving. Be conscious of your breath while walking as well as your thoughts and feelings.
That is all.”
It seems so easy… :-)

Do we recognize our thoughts? Do we recognize our feelings? Do we know what our breathing is?

There are no concepts in that practice to believe in, nothing to lie ourselves about. Simple as a bird flying high in the sky… :-)

The “self” needs to be saved in duality


Roy was waiting for his laundry to be done when a person came by and approached him:
“ Sir, I have some important literature for you to read.”

When Roy read the front page of the little pamphlet, he encountered the following:
“Why did God gave the commandments? Can I go to heaven if a follow them? What if I break the commandments? How can I be forgiven of my sin? Look inside for the answers of these questions!!”

Roy looked at the contents inside observing a typical “life insurance policy” for the afterlife.
“You cannot go to heaven if you trust the wrong thing. If you have been trusting the commandments, you are not saved. Will you repent right now and only trust Jesus for your salvation?”

Once our consciousness changes, “high pressure, save yourself ads” will not have any effect.
If our consciousness on the other hand remains at a certain level of influence, that is in the “I” awareness; then the above will be enough to make someone act.

For example, Robert knows about the keywords of “spirituality.” Sin, God, Salvation, Hell, Heaven, etc.
The moment Robert identifies himself as a “sinner” due to some guilt complex for lack of understanding about consequences in life, then that is the moment where the other keywords will automatically pop up.
The little child who has disobeyed God’s orders and thus feel utterly in shame, needs salvation.

However, the above is not “bad” at all. That is the starting point for Robert to search and find more about himself. First, Robert will believe in someone who can “save him” for he does not know where to start. Robert feels hopeless and he cannot even quit his drinking habit, smoking or sexual addictions. At that point, Robert’s mentality will turn into the “black and white” understanding: “This is bad, that is good. Smoking is bad. Sex is bad, drinking is bad, etc.”

The idea of “purity” may arise out of all the denials, the “bad things” in his ever growing list.

In a different level of consciousness, we could see that any thought, philosophy or religion stuck in the level of the “I” is merely the starting point of the journey.

“I need to be saved. I must go to Paradise. I am a sinner. I need to become pure. I am an angel. I must do good actions. I will experience punishment if I disobey God’s law. etc.”

The sense of guilt, shame and worthlessness is part of the package as “motivators” to do something about changing the life of a “sinner.”

The point of this article is to share, what is already evident: Everyone has his own journey and a starting point. We may go from the “inside” to the “outside” to search for a savior, just to come back to the “inside” again and perhaps to recognize that there is no “inside”… but there is :-)

If for some reason “I” find that “all of that stuff which I believed before is childish” and then go against that which I embraced before as a self proclaimed “savior to others;” it only shows that my consciousness is still dwelling into the “black and white” mentality. It is the same consciousness but in a different extreme. Duality.

To respect an individual and what he finds in his path for self-realization is very important in life. The “seeker” needs to become aware of his own findings.
It is his life. It is his experience. It is his journey. This life is another chapter in the book of life.

When “self” finds that there is “no-self” then another set of beliefs and religions will appear and that which was embraced before, may be despised as “childish.”
At that stage consciousness haven’t changed. It is the same duality between self and “no-self.” Many individuals could have a great intellectual understanding of “no-self” but their consciousness is still residing in the same duality.

Consciousness does not change by thinking. Our thinking is only a reflection of our consciousness.

When we have the courage to leave everything we have learned and put it aside, not as a rejection; but as a continuation of our own journey when the time comes, then there is an opportunity for our consciousness to change by itself and to realize new things. Life is change. Consciousness changes.

Any rejection of life will continue duality in our perception of reality.

Healing the wounds into Honesty

Calvin and Hobbes

Mary was in the emergency room with her Father who was very sick. After many tests, it was discovered that he had a tumor in his colon, which bloated his stomach and wouldn’t allow him to have a bowel movement for many days already. A nasogastric tube was placed in his body to suction out trapped fluids.

Mary’s father was suffering and feeling miserable while waiting for surgery. The hospital was very crowded despite the 24-hour non-stop surgeries.

The environment was surrounded by high pressure, sadness and uncertainty.

Even though, Mary knew deep inside that his father was going to be alright; she couldn’t help but to drop slow tears when feeling her father’s suffering.

To watch how slowly someone’s body shuts down could be an emotive experience.

Destiny is the same for everyone at the end of this lifetime, but how we get there, differs in every situation.

Someone may read lots of books and hear many Gurus and even hear “God speaking” about the fact of our eternity, but when a situation like the one above is experienced in our lives, somehow everything we “know” is of no help during that time. We forget everything we know about “spirituality.”

Why is that?
Have you wonder about that?

Life will show us where we are.

A person who is not aware of his beliefs or how those beliefs influence the way he lives his life, is simply living by “default.”

In that moment we discover our emotions.
A person, who has not looked into healing his emotions, cannot put any sort of “intellectual understanding” into something practical in life.

There is no death but change.
Someone’s suffering does not have to be our own. Human misery is a consequence. Not something “bad” or “good” but a consequence, which could change our own consciousness; our awareness about our own lives.
If we only could become aware of that.. :-)

Many times we experience limits in life.
A room filled with sadness, will influence whoever is in it, unless we learn to expand our energy so nothing can get in. We need to be aware to experience that.

Life will only show us what we “are,” and we will see that through the mirror of relationships.

When we observe ourselves, we may need utmost honesty. This type of honesty does not come from the rational understanding, the world of “good and bad,” “right or wrong” or “pros and cons,” it comes when we follow our hearts without hesitation guided by our intuition and insight; for we know that this is the way to connect to life, to be one with it. However, some may believe that “to follow our heart” is to follow our emotions or someone may recognize love as an emotion.

Even in that mistake of interpretation, there will be benefit by learning through the experience in our own skin.
The reward may not be a belief in “Paradise or Heaven” in the afterlife, but to know exactly where we are “now,” through the mirror of life.

That type of honesty is hard to come by.