Fear of dying


When we go to bed every night, are we afraid that we will not wake up? :-)
How could we make sure that we will be awake the next morning?
Perhaps by buying extra life insurance? Or by having some belief in our mind that we will go to a ”better place”?

Mind games.

There is no certainty about nothing. All we have are beliefs to give us a fake certainty.
The beauty of uncertainty is daunting for many.

Once we abandon the territory of thoughts, beliefs, thinking and speculating about life and death (duality) then we could be open to observe, watch and learn about ourselves.

Perhaps at that moment we could feel that this consciousness of being alive is amazing. It is not something to hold on to, but something to appreciate and to enjoy.

That is living.

The thought of losing it will make our “hell in heaven.”
Then we want desperately to continue on, and that is how a belief system to give us comfort will be needed.
We worry, we fear, we want dry intellectual answers which will not quench our thirst for certainty.

Being aware, conscious is fantastic! Not being it while “alive” is to be a fish without being aware of the Ocean surrounding it. A fish without water… :-)

The duality of life and death is just a perception.
We hold on to one side of the coin and fear to lose that “good” side.

Consciousness “is” ….untouched by that duality.

Consciousness moves. It continues to change despite our stubbornness in being attached to an idea, a belief, a dogma…a thought.

“Rest in Peace” is sheer ignorance. Something polite to say. Something “nice” so we could look good…
But it does not reflect the reality of movement, of change, of life.

To be “settled down” in the idea of a static personality is to forbid ourselves the opportunity to flow with change.

To hold on to anything… and that is anything, is to be an unconditional slave just like when we separate from anything. We go to the extremes to know the middle.

The above paradox is quite deep. It is out of the reach of most who only know about separation to be detached or to become attached to something to feel alive.

It is that “I” who separates and who attaches.

Thus, when there is no “I” there cannot be separation or attachment.

That is Oneness.

When you are but “you” are not. Enjoyment when “you” are and when “you” are not.

Being and not being, the mystery which needs to be unfold by each one of us, when we are ready for it.
No later not before, that is the perfection of destiny… of life. :-)

The virtue of Oneness


A virtuous life is the one lived with oneness.
Oneness in our personality. Oneness in our emotions. Oneness in our relationship with life.

Any sort of perceived separation and thus, rejection; will take us away from that Oneness.

The above is not a matter of belief. It is not a matter of being a “selected one,” it is not a matter of being an intellectual full of information.

It is a matter of being empty of all those things, which create a personality ready to reject, to separate, to analyze to live in duality, to live in the perception of a wall of insurmountable dichotomy.

Rejection of a religious group. Rejection of moral views. Rejection of people due to some belief. Rejection of any being, which we find “ugly,” “no good,” “despicable,” “abominable,” etc.
Rejection of any circumstance that is surrounding us at any moment in time.

When there is no rejection, then enjoyment is and in that enjoyment, oneness appears.

A collective consciousness which is fragmented, will see a set of virtuous living behaviors: Generosity, detachment, love, toleration, friendliness, compassion, contentment, joy, etc.

All of those dictionary words represent a fragment of Oneness. A particular person may exhibit what we call “generosity,” but that is a ray of Oneness in the vacuum of darkness of the fragmented self.

Love is a misunderstood feeling.
It is not a romantic trip to Disneyland where the lovers could love each other forever… A person exhibiting a fragmented personality cannot know what love is.

It doesn’t matter if the object of that love is the world, another person or God.
A fragmented personality is not able to become one… that means; to be empty of all beliefs, emotional traumas and fears.

How on earth a person could know about oneness, about love in that condition? :-)

A typical person only knows about the “master and slave” relationship. It is “me” over you. It is “me” under you. That is all. There are no equals, because to be equal means to be empty.

Empty so we could listen. So we could provide emotional comfort to another, so we could harmonize… so we could be intimate.

Otherwise, our fragmented personality will not allow us to experience oneness with someone, with God or with the world, with life.

The above is not a religious belief. But it could be for those who are not looking to understand themselves, with honesty and with their whole hearts.
That is with passion.

When someone does not wish to understand himself, then to be lost in another is desirable. Whether that is God or another person, or a belief, the aim is for someone else to “drive” the car of our destiny.

The interesting thing is that nobody can do that for us. Not even God.

We live in fear.

Fear of tomorrow. Fear of the past. Fear of that person. Fear of God. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of pleasure. Fear of dying…. Fear of living life.

And then we wish to know love… :-)
Isn’t that contradictory?

Love is Oneness.



Enjoyment of the carousel of life


The last 7 posts had some depth. This one could be the last one in that series. This post will attempt to put everything together.

In Oneness there is no rejection.
The dog cannot reject its tail nor its legs. All of that make up a dog. The world is “I.” What “I” do to “others,” “I” do it to myself.

Duality is a perception. When we apply our “morality” and reject one side of that perceived duality, to only accept the “good” side in our view, we will reject life just like a dog is rejecting its legs.

Life is like a carousel bringing different experiences to the observer. Religions, philosophies and so on, thrive in duality. We have learned to pick the “white horse” because … (fill in the blank) when the carousel of life will move by itself and then a black horse will be in front of us just to show us its own particular beauty; but there are other horses as well: A pinto horse, a brown horse, etc.
The “white horse” will appear all by itself again in its right time, just like the phases of the moon.

Choosing to live our lives in rejection of what life brings in this moment is to close our consciousness to the experience of enjoyment.

Anything worthwhile happens right now. To live life to the fullest is about “now.” It is not about the “afterlife” and all the great things that “we will get if we do so and so…” As mentioned before, it is not about “doing.” Ego is “doing things” continually, despite the fact that the carousel of life moves all by itself. Thus, being open in our consciousness is of paramount importance. That is how enjoyment of life appears.

Could God or any enlightened being want anything else from us but to enjoy life? :-)

Enjoyment of the pinto horse who is right in front of us. Now.

If “I” compare “what is” with some idea about the future “white horse” because I had a dream or a vision about it… I am just living life in my head, not with my whole being. Life is now.

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It is great to know about “illuminated ones” or God himself is contacting us in one way or another with teachings; but for God’s sake… :-) Your life is not about “them.” It is not about worshiping “them” and counting their “virtues.”

It is about “you”… and getting to know “you,” as you are now, with all the illusions and different personalities, the emotional ups and downs… with all hopes , beliefs and expectations which are not allowing “you” to enjoy life to the fullest.

There is no enlightened being who could be the “founder” of a religion or philosophy.
Because that brings separation, duality.
My group vs. the rest of the world.

It is the followers, who have created a religion and separated from “others” by doing so. It is “they” who have interpreted teachings… It is “us.”

Our language is full of duality. If an enlightened being was to communicate with us, that enlightened being will have a hard time trying to find the words which do not express duality in a teaching.

What is left then for the grasp of the majority, is the well-known: “This is good. That is bad.”

That works well for the ones who just want to follow someone but who are unable to take a deep and honest look at themselves to find the beauty and depth already within them.

Nevertheless, all is good as it is. Different consciousness. Different understanding and none is “better than another,” but every one has their own path, their own journey.
To integrate all of that variety is the challenge for us. When it is no longer a challenge, then we have understood.

If we could grasp these words, we could never laugh at someone who is lost in devotion, for that devotion brings those feelings that are needed to transform the self.
Life will bring the exact experiences that we need to open up in this diversity… We just need to open up our consciousness, like a wide open door. Flow with life. Empty yourself.

All there is left then, is to observe and appreciate the uniqueness of everyone and every moment… Just to enjoy life to the fullest. Enjoy the ride! :-)

Non-duality is Oneness


Duality is a word used by many philosophies and religious beliefs alike. That word is seldom understood practically. Most are just caught up in conceptual understanding, information, history, research, etc. All of that is “good” but paradoxically it is not important if we are looking to open our consciousness.

Heaven and Hell is a well-known duality. There is no way to separate one and the other. To choose heaven over hell is like choosing the day over the night when the practical experience is that both states need to be experienced. Practically, experientially there is no “choosing.”

We cannot experience heaven without knowing what is hell. As a matter of fact, we cannot know “good” unless we know “evil.”

Religions, philosophies and so on have taught us to label one side of the coin as “good,” while rejecting the other side as “bad.”

That is how the whole game of duality in beliefs are in existence:
Pure vs. impure, black vs. white, paradise vs. hell, god vs. satan, Lucky ones vs. unlucky ones, saints vs. sinners, etc.

As we realize now, every rejection means that our consciousness will close down and align into the “black or white” mentality and thus, choices in life.
Why? :-)
Because we are rejecting an experience of life and there is no difference between “I” and life.

Here is another “secret formula” :-) for those interested in concepts:

Non-duality is Oneness.
The experience of Oneness is included in emptiness.
To be empty means to experience the canvas without paint, the soul.

Nevertheless, if we choose the soul and not the body (duality) we have not experienced the soul.
Because the experience of that soul means non-duality.

In the above “secret” formula all religions and philosophies with their different terminology are included.

The key is inclusion, integration of everything; but through our analytical minds, we only separate.

Where is God in the formula?
You are merged with “him” when you are empty. Isn’t that oneness? :-)
If God is “love” as the cliché mentions; could love be something different from Oneness? :-)

If we think that duality is “bad,” we have not understood anything. If we label “hell” as “bad” we have not understood a thing.

Integrate everything.
All experiences are necessary.
There is no experience that could last forever for everything is change (as mentioned in other articles.)
If we reject something, we get caught up in it.

Ego will make a trauma out of an experience which ego does not like.
That experience will not last forever. It will go away like everything else.

Do we feel sad because everything “goes away”? :-)
Then, we have not understood anything yet.
We get back into duality again and again, that is separation by creating the emotional states of sadness and happiness.

Life flows. From one perspective (point of reference,) life flows away… that is why it will necessarily come back again. :-) That is the game.

Non emotional happiness is non-dual.
That is contentment, joy, elation, bliss… all of those words… but the real thing is beyond the definitions, beyond what ideas, beliefs and dogmas could bring.

Practical openness to life so we could enjoy life:Through our thoughts, feelings, good wishes… actions.
That is all. :-)

The door of consciousness


When sharing about consciousness, the main requisite to “understand” it is not to use our logical minds to “make sense of it.” It is not through rationality how we could grasp consciousness.

For example if we say: “Our consciousness is according to our consciousness.”
That is a logical phrase. Very rational but brings nothing to the experience.

So let us explore some examples:

Ralph had a belief that to be around smokers was going to affect his health. Thus, Ralph rejected all smokers. Whenever he was close to one, there was a feeling inside him that prompted him to move away from that “unhealthy presence.”
Some may call that “impure presence.” :-)

Whether Ralph’s belief is “right or wrong” is not the point when it comes to consciousness and life.
It is about rejection.

Ralph moved to an apartment complex. Everything was “good” until his non-smokers neighbors decided to move out. Life put there heavy smokers around Ralph.

This does not mean that Ralph has to mingle with all smokers from now on and get his shirt impregnated with the aroma of tobacco. It just means that this feeling of rejection inside him needs to be dissolved by understanding the oneness of all. We are all connected.

Life showed that lesson; however,it wasn’t the time for Ralph to “wake up.” His consciousness remained the same.

Ralph had a belief that homosexual individuals were a “disease” to society. This rejection towards people perceived as different from him, prompted life to teach him another lesson about acceptance. Ralph’s daughter was gay. Not only that, his brother “came out of the closet” after many years of hiding his sexual preference to the whole family.

If Ralph does not learn from those lessons, there will be more to come.
Ralph was suffering as his beliefs were shattered.
For many, suffering is the key to open the door of consciousness.

Life does not work to support our beliefs. Life only looks at our lack of openness towards life itself.

There is no such a thing as “higher consciousness” or “lower consciousness.” That is discriminatory. Nevertheless many times there is a need to use those words to explain to a determined audience who are living a “white or black” mentality and are unable to “see” something different…yet. :-)

Pretty soon we could discover that what is known as “karma” (to bring an esoteric/religious/ “spiritual” label ) is nothing else but our rejections in the experience of life.

That is why, as our consciousness opens up in acceptance, there is automatic unity with all…
And that has been the teachings of many saints, prophets, Gods, gurus, illuminated ones, etc, etc.

Consciousness is awareness. If we are aware we could “see” that most of the time our thoughts do not come from our own volition. They just come.

Avyakt7 could create a “belief system” to explain this phenomena; whether I call that “scientific research” or not, it does not matter.

The fact is that if we are not aware of those thoughts as they come… what are we aware of?

It is not a matter of “rejecting” those thoughts by changing them into an artificially created “positive thought.” It is just a matter of seeing that “I” have not created those thoughts.

To be aware means to catch that in the moment. Right when it is happening.

To finish the examples, let us take a look at things that we could reject unknowingly:
Someone who professes a different view, belief, idea.
A situation that is happening in our lives.
A person who does not “meet our standards.”
An idea, a being, a philosophy, a way of thinking…
The list could go on.

Consciousness is like a door. When the door is shut, there is a personality created which needs to be maintained. It is a prototype which demands to continue “unchanged” and that ego would like for “others” to fit their expectations and demands.

Life will bring the necessary experiences for that door to start “opening up.”
Because when that door is wide open, there is nothing that could “hurt it.”
A wide open door is what is known as being “egoless.”

That is the time when we will have recovered our innocence.

The struggle of being “right.”


Our society in general has inculcated the idea that the most important thing in life is to be “right.”

This goal creates a struggle in our minds. No one wants to be labeled as “being wrong.”
Thus, life becomes a battlefield of proving rightness over wrongness.
“I am right. You are wrong.”

The above is within the limits of a childish consciousness. It is not “bad” neither “good.” It is just a type of consciousness.

I recall the story of Jim Thorpe. He was an Olympic gold medalist in the decathlon (1912.) He lost that medal after it was found that he was paid to play semiprofessional baseball before the Olympics.
30 years after his death, the Olympic Committee restored his Olympic medals… (??)

Nowadays, we cannot think of a world-class athlete who is not paid or has an endorsement to compete in the Olympics.
Was Jim Thorpe “right” or “wrong”? :-)

Pope Francis is into changing “old methods” of the Catholic Church:.. “More than by fear of going astray, my hope is that we will be moved by the fear of remaining shut up within structures which give us a false sense of security, within rules which make us harsh judges, within habits which make us feel safe, while at our door people are starving.”

Rules change. “Right or wrong” changes as well…

Anne bought a plasma TV. It had such a huge screen, the neighbors could watch what she was watching from their homes. One of the components failed in the TV. Because Anne had some knowledge about computers and electronics, Anne came to the conclusion that the issue was hardware related. Because the TV was under warranty she called the store.
The people from the store sent their repair crew. They went exactly through the same steps as Anne did to troubleshoot the device. They sent an email to their headquarters about their findings and left.

Anne thought that her problem was resolved and waited for a couple of weeks… then…nothing! She called again to find out about the delay. The store decided to send a different repair crew…
The new crew went through the same thing. They apologized for the miscommunication and mentioned that her issue somehow “slipped through the cracks.” :-)

In a couple of days, Anne received an email from a supervisor of the store, letting her know that “she was right all along!”

The TV wasn’t fixed yet… but Anne was right!! :-)

In life, the issue is not just an instant of being called “right or wrong” but the important thing to remember is what happens in between.
Did Anne enjoy her time without a TV?
Did Anne found another source of enjoyment?

Or perhaps, Anne was complaining all along about something that she had no control of?

The consciousness of enjoyment goes beyond the instant of feeling the satisfaction of being called “right” at one moment or “wrong” at the other.

It is what it is. If there is something that could be done to “fix” things, then we could do our part… but enjoyment needs to be there.

To find out in the future if we are ‘right or wrong’ is of no consequence when we live life to the fullest.

Of course the above could be misinterpreted as: “performing evil actions and not caring because it does not matter if I do something right or wrong.” ;-)

The intention behind any action is what matters. There is no enjoyment in being afraid of being caught.

Fear is the opposite of enjoyment in life. Fear is the opposite of love in life.

That is why, there is no ideology or philosophy which brings fear to a human being, which could be able to transform consciousness.

Fear could be removed when we are aware of our own fears, when we could recognize them as what they are without trying to justify them or rationalize their existence.

That is, fear could be removed when we are truly honest with ourselves… That is the time when enjoyment could be free again to start flowing in our lives.

The virtue of Tolerance


A notch of depth will be shared below.

If God were to speak with a group of people about living life to the fullest, what could be “His” way of addressing the audience? :-)

Most probably according to the audience’s state of consciousness. Otherwise, “his” message could not be understood.
One thing to notice is that “interpretation” of that message will happen until there is personal experience of the words conveyed. For all practical reasons, the only concern is to make sure the audience understands the message.

That is a powerful reason not to limit the manifestation of what we may call “God” in our lives. “God” is not meant to appear in just one form to everyone.
My intellectual ability, cultural traditions, moral values, beliefs, etc. are different from someone else from another culture or historical time.

As our consciousness moves to a different position, so will be our understanding.

Let me illustrate the above.

Matthew 5:39 (Holy Bible) “But– I say to you, not to resist the evil, but whoever shall slap thee on thy right cheek, turn to him also the other…”

The above is believed by many to be the words of God. For some, the words of the “son of God” and for others “nice words to live by.”

Malcom X said: “If you turn the other cheek, you can be enslaved for 1,000 years.”
Nietzsche interpreted “turning the other cheek” as “slave morality” in his “master and slave paradigm of moralities.

Even though the words: “To turn the other cheek” were pronounced by “God himself,” according to some; those words were not really understood.
As a matter of fact, those words caused a rebellion in those listening to them. Every experience of war or racist issues bringing the problem of “you vs. me” created an environment in which the majority of human beings were not able to “give the other cheek” to the “enemy.”

At that point, God decided to change his words and used the word “Tolerance” instead. :-)
“To tolerate someone or something” was considered a virtue.
God himself could be praising our ability to “tolerate.”
That tolerance became a “Spiritual” power.
The power to tolerate.

You could “turn the other cheek” because you were “tolerating” as God has taught you.

The above is something which could be understood by many.

To “tolerate” means that there is a “wall” in me called a personality. That wall does not allow for things being thrown at “me” to pass through. The focus of someone who tolerates is to do the “right” thing.
The focus is important to understand consciousness at a deeper level.

Basically, when “I” tolerate John’s behavior, “I” will make myself believe that “I” am doing the right thing and even though John’s behavior is not something which “I” approve; that is fine for I have learned that to “give the other cheek” is “good.”

In a deeper level, to tolerate means to lie to yourself.

Is it possible for God to teach us about lying to ourselves?

That is the wrong question to ask when we could see the “valley from the top of the mountain,” but a valid question to ask when our consciousness is stuck on the focus of being “right or wrong.”
That type of consciousness is filled with judgment and duality.

To tolerate is a step forward in keeping things at peace. It is the first step for someone whose “normal” behavior is filled with animosity.
Tolerance is something that a person in this level may understand for to “give the other cheek” is still out of reach.

Is tolerance a virtue?
It all depends on your state of consciousness.

When your consciousness is focused on enjoyment, to “give the other cheek” is not an issue. Many examples in the life of the Buddha will point to this.

When our consciousness is located in “being right” we could give the “other cheek” as compulsion.
“It is the right thing to do whether I feel that or not.”

That is why, virtues are not found in the dictionary. That is why to be “virtuous” is not a matter of “practice.”
It is a matter of consciousness.

“Others” will label what they perceive as “virtue” but there is nothing to practice.

Tolerance is not necessary when the wall of the personality is not there anymore.
That is called emptiness.

To be empty is not something that could be defined. A concept is not the thing, but when we experience emptiness ourselves, then we will know.

When we know about emptiness, to tolerate someone becomes meaningless.

Is emptiness a virtue?

Let me laugh at that question …. :-) :-)